update from sparkleup

.tags

@@ -119,6 +119,7 @@ erotica	writing/sawtooth/party/1-3-breeding-pair.md	2;"	vimwiki:writing/sawtooth
 erotica	writing/sawtooth/party/1-4-hostess.md	2;"	vimwiki:writing/sawtooth/party/1-4-hostess\twriting/sawtooth/party/1-4-hostess
 erotica	writing/sawtooth/party/index.md	2;"	vimwiki:writing/sawtooth/party/index\twriting/sawtooth/party/index
 erotica	writing/the-second-ridge.md	2;"	vimwiki:writing/the-second-ridge\twriting/the-second-ridge
+essay-collection	writing/its-not-about-the-dishes/index.md	2;"	vimwiki:writing/its-not-about-the-dishes/index\twriting/its-not-about-the-dishes/index
 etc	diary/2020-04-22.md	64;"	vimwiki:diary/2020-04-22\tdiary/2020-04-22#etc
 executive-function	diary/2020-04-09.md	1;"	vimwiki:diary/2020-04-09\tdiary/2020-04-09
 executive-function	diary/2020-04-10.md	1;"	vimwiki:diary/2020-04-10\tdiary/2020-04-10
@@ -238,6 +239,7 @@ fiction	writing/sawtooth/the-fool.md	3;"	vimwiki:writing/sawtooth/the-fool\twrit
 fiction	writing/sawtooth/what-defines-us.md	3;"	vimwiki:writing/sawtooth/what-defines-us\twriting/sawtooth/what-defines-us#fiction
 fiction	writing/sawtooth/what-remains-of-yourself.md	2;"	vimwiki:writing/sawtooth/what-remains-of-yourself\twriting/sawtooth/what-remains-of-yourself
 fiction	writing/sawtooth/youre-gone.md	3;"	vimwiki:writing/sawtooth/youre-gone\twriting/sawtooth/youre-gone#fiction
+fiction	writing/surgery-novel/index.md	2;"	vimwiki:writing/surgery-novel/index\twriting/surgery-novel/index
 fiction	writing/the-second-ridge.md	2;"	vimwiki:writing/the-second-ridge\twriting/the-second-ridge
 flash-fiction	writing/sawtooth/fisher.md	3;"	vimwiki:writing/sawtooth/fisher\twriting/sawtooth/fisher#flash-fiction
 flash-fiction	writing/sawtooth/folding-laundry.md	2;"	vimwiki:writing/sawtooth/folding-laundry\twriting/sawtooth/folding-laundry
@@ -268,6 +270,7 @@ gender	writing/rum-and-coke/index.md	2;"	vimwiki:writing/rum-and-coke/index\twri
 gender	writing/rum-and-coke/what-i-expected.md	2;"	vimwiki:writing/rum-and-coke/what-i-expected\twriting/rum-and-coke/what-i-expected
 gender	writing/sawtooth/disapperance.md	3;"	vimwiki:writing/sawtooth/disapperance\twriting/sawtooth/disapperance#gender
 gender	writing/sawtooth/the-fool.md	3;"	vimwiki:writing/sawtooth/the-fool\twriting/sawtooth/the-fool#gender
+gender	writing/surgery-novel/index.md	2;"	vimwiki:writing/surgery-novel/index\twriting/surgery-novel/index
 horror	writing/belek.md	2;"	vimwiki:writing/belek\twriting/belek
 horror	writing/inner-demons/content/a-010.md	2;"	vimwiki:writing/inner-demons/content/a-010\twriting/inner-demons/content/a-010
 horror	writing/inner-demons/content/a-020.md	2;"	vimwiki:writing/inner-demons/content/a-020\twriting/inner-demons/content/a-020
@@ -313,6 +316,7 @@ metafurry	writing/rum-and-coke/how-many.md	2;"	vimwiki:writing/rum-and-coke/how-
 metafurry	writing/rum-and-coke/index.md	2;"	vimwiki:writing/rum-and-coke/index\twriting/rum-and-coke/index
 metafurry	writing/rum-and-coke/what-i-expected.md	2;"	vimwiki:writing/rum-and-coke/what-i-expected\twriting/rum-and-coke/what-i-expected
 movement	writing/sawtooth/fisher.md	3;"	vimwiki:writing/sawtooth/fisher\twriting/sawtooth/fisher#movement
+non-fiction	writing/its-not-about-the-dishes/index.md	2;"	vimwiki:writing/its-not-about-the-dishes/index\twriting/its-not-about-the-dishes/index
 novel	writing/consequences-of-dissonance/index.md	2;"	vimwiki:writing/consequences-of-dissonance/index\twriting/consequences-of-dissonance/index
 novel	writing/inner-demons/content/a-010.md	2;"	vimwiki:writing/inner-demons/content/a-010\twriting/inner-demons/content/a-010
 novel	writing/inner-demons/content/a-020.md	2;"	vimwiki:writing/inner-demons/content/a-020\twriting/inner-demons/content/a-020
@@ -390,6 +394,7 @@ novel	writing/sawtooth/party/1-2-hostess.md	2;"	vimwiki:writing/sawtooth/party/1
 novel	writing/sawtooth/party/1-3-breeding-pair.md	2;"	vimwiki:writing/sawtooth/party/1-3-breeding-pair\twriting/sawtooth/party/1-3-breeding-pair
 novel	writing/sawtooth/party/1-4-hostess.md	2;"	vimwiki:writing/sawtooth/party/1-4-hostess\twriting/sawtooth/party/1-4-hostess
 novel	writing/sawtooth/party/index.md	2;"	vimwiki:writing/sawtooth/party/index\twriting/sawtooth/party/index
+novel	writing/surgery-novel/index.md	2;"	vimwiki:writing/surgery-novel/index\twriting/surgery-novel/index
 outline	writing/post-self/qoheleth/index.md	3;"	vimwiki:writing/post-self/qoheleth/index\twriting/post-self/qoheleth/index#outline
 package	tech/md-ext/editing.md	2;"	vimwiki:tech/md-ext/editing\ttech/md-ext/editing
 package	tech/md-ext/verse.md	2;"	vimwiki:tech/md-ext/verse\ttech/md-ext/verse
@@ -401,6 +406,7 @@ party	writing/sawtooth/party/1-4-hostess.md	2;"	vimwiki:writing/sawtooth/party/1
 poetry	writing/eigengrau.md	2;"	vimwiki:writing/eigengrau\twriting/eigengrau
 poetry	writing/eigengrau/index.md	2;"	vimwiki:writing/eigengrau/index\twriting/eigengrau/index
 poetry	writing/poetry/index.md	2;"	vimwiki:writing/poetry/index\twriting/poetry/index
+polyam	writing/its-not-about-the-dishes/index.md	2;"	vimwiki:writing/its-not-about-the-dishes/index\twriting/its-not-about-the-dishes/index
 polyam	writing/rum-and-coke/how-many.md	2;"	vimwiki:writing/rum-and-coke/how-many\twriting/rum-and-coke/how-many
 polyam	writing/sawtooth/a-theory-of-attachment.md	3;"	vimwiki:writing/sawtooth/a-theory-of-attachment\twriting/sawtooth/a-theory-of-attachment#polyam
 post-self	writing/post-self/apres-un-reve.md	2;"	vimwiki:writing/post-self/apres-un-reve\twriting/post-self/apres-un-reve
@@ -676,6 +682,7 @@ writing	writing/inner-demons/content/c-020.md	2;"	vimwiki:writing/inner-demons/c
 writing	writing/inner-demons/content/c-040.md	2;"	vimwiki:writing/inner-demons/content/c-040\twriting/inner-demons/content/c-040
 writing	writing/inner-demons/content/epilogue.md	2;"	vimwiki:writing/inner-demons/content/epilogue\twriting/inner-demons/content/epilogue
 writing	writing/inner-demons/index.md	2;"	vimwiki:writing/inner-demons/index\twriting/inner-demons/index
+writing	writing/its-not-about-the-dishes/index.md	2;"	vimwiki:writing/its-not-about-the-dishes/index\twriting/its-not-about-the-dishes/index
 writing	writing/jaroudi/asoub/1.md	2;"	vimwiki:writing/jaroudi/asoub/1\twriting/jaroudi/asoub/1
 writing	writing/jaroudi/asoub/2.md	2;"	vimwiki:writing/jaroudi/asoub/2\twriting/jaroudi/asoub/2
 writing	writing/jaroudi/asoub/3.md	2;"	vimwiki:writing/jaroudi/asoub/3\twriting/jaroudi/asoub/3
@@ -772,4 +779,5 @@ writing	writing/sawtooth/the-fool.md	3;"	vimwiki:writing/sawtooth/the-fool\twrit
 writing	writing/sawtooth/what-defines-us.md	3;"	vimwiki:writing/sawtooth/what-defines-us\twriting/sawtooth/what-defines-us#writing
 writing	writing/sawtooth/what-remains-of-yourself.md	2;"	vimwiki:writing/sawtooth/what-remains-of-yourself\twriting/sawtooth/what-remains-of-yourself
 writing	writing/sawtooth/youre-gone.md	3;"	vimwiki:writing/sawtooth/youre-gone\twriting/sawtooth/youre-gone#writing
+writing	writing/surgery-novel/index.md	2;"	vimwiki:writing/surgery-novel/index\twriting/surgery-novel/index
 writing	writing/the-second-ridge.md	2;"	vimwiki:writing/the-second-ridge\twriting/the-second-ridge

writing/index.md

@@ -19,6 +19,7 @@
 * [O] [ally](https://ally.id)
 * [O] [Post-Self](post-self/index)
 * [.] [*untitled surgery novel*](surgery-novel/index)
+* [.] [It's Not About The Dishes](its-not-about-the-dishes/index)
 * Poetry:
     * [X] [Eigengrau](eigengrau)
     * [O] [Ongoing](poetry/index)

writing/its-not-about-the-dishes/index.md

@@ -0,0 +1,8 @@
+%title It's Not About The Dishes
+:writing:non-fiction:essay-collection:polyam:
+
+* [ ] It's not about the dishes --- root cause analysis to work through strife
+* [ ] Catering to the one with the most restrictions
+* [ ] Witnessing ("the basic human need to be watched was once satisfied by God" Deus Ex, but it's a good quote)
+* [ ] relationships as coping mechanisms for upbringing
+* [ ] methodlogies - retrospectives, standups, and other enterprisey bullshit that can actually kind of help

writing/surgery-novel/index.md

@@ -0,0 +1,85 @@
+%title Untitled Surgery Novel
+:writing:fiction:novel:gender:
+
+I had my own surgery in 2018, and my therapist suggested I write about my experience anonymously so that she could share it with one of her other clients who was looking at going through a similar process. That she did so a year before I started writing this is neither here nor there.
+
+Either way, While Justice's story closely follows my own in a lot of respects, it isn't 100% the same. It's the type of thing I'd like to be readable without losing any of the informative aspects. A lot of the process of going through surgery is incredibly recondite and awkward, and there's no escaping that. The goal of this project is, first and foremost, to tell a story, but a close second is to provide an example of what one can expect in going through this process. To that end, I hope it helps.
+
+> To my mom, who changed my birthday to my surgery date.
+
+## Outline
+
+Justice - trans woman getting GRS
+Matthew - husband
+
+
+* Start with letters fiasco
+* flashback to:
+    * Decisions
+        * Deciding on surgery
+        * Deciding on a surgeon
+    * First round prep
+        * Getting letters (part 1)
+        * Getting the consult
+        * The consult
+    * The problem of hair
+        * Laser
+        * Electrolysis
+* Leading up to surgery
+    * Getting letters (part 2)
+    * The pre-op appointments
+        * General medical
+        * Surgeon
+        * PT
+    * Trans woman murdered in town a week before
+    * Bowel prep
+    * Driving and the night before
+* Surgery
+    * The morning of
+    * Waking up and the first night
+* The hospital stay
+    * The bed
+    * Bed rest
+    * Bowel movements
+    * Breathing and fever - incentive spirometer
+    * The dressing
+        * The first sight
+        * Nerves mapping
+    * Anxiety and pain
+    * Medications
+        * timing
+        * Oxy/tylenol
+        * Cephelaxin and the smell
+    * The packing
+        * The drains
+        * The catheter
+        * The packing itself
+    * Peeing and showering
+* The post-op stay
+    * The drive to the Airbnb
+    * Getting partner
+    * Drainage
+    * Showering and company
+    * Bacitracin
+    * Getting off oxy
+    * Getting comfortable
+    * Walking with cane
+* Post-op visit
+    * Leaving Airbnb
+    * Powell's
+    * Getting there early
+    * Kat Campos and getting dilators
+* Home
+    * The drive home
+    * Seeing dogs
+    * Dilating
+    * Shopping
+* Healing
+    * Dilating and increasing size
+    * PT
+        * Lifting
+        * Walking
+        * Breathing
+        * Tensing/muscle control/kegels
+        * Healing well
+* End with the concert?