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<p><strong>Visibility exceptions: Codrin Bălan#Castor, Sorina Bălan</strong></p>
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<p>Ioan and May Then My Name,</p>
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<p>I had the chance to sit down with █████ for a pretty long chat over dinner yesterday. They invited me over to the sim they’ve built for themself which is…incredibly them. There is no den or common area. There’s just a one bedroom apartment stuck off the back of a large kitchen that, they promised me, looked as much like one they could remember from a tour back phys-side when they were looking at getting into culinary school. It was quite a bit more cramped than I would have expected, but they explained that this was to keep the amount of walking to a minimum. They showed me what they meant by cooking one of the best dishes of <em>cacio e pepe</em> that I’ve ever had, and they did so without really moving their feet at all. They could turn to the prep station to grate cheese while the noodles boiled on one burner of the six-burner stove, then just all at once pull everything together on a pan on one of the other burners.</p>
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<p>I had the chance to sit down with █████ for a pretty long chat over dinner yesterday. They invited me over to the sim they’ve built for themself which is…incredibly them. There is no den or common area. There’s just a one bedroom apartment stuck off the back of a large kitchen that, they promised me, looked as much like one they could remember from a tour back phys-side when they were working at getting into culinary school. It was quite a bit more cramped than I would have expected, but they explained that this was to keep the amount of walking to a minimum. They showed me what they meant by cooking one of the best dishes of <em>cacio e pepe</em> that I’ve ever had, and they did so without really moving their feet at all. They could turn to the prep station to grate cheese while the noodles boiled on one burner of the six-burner stove, then just all at once pull everything together on a pan on one of the other burners.</p>
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<p>We took our food out into the front, which had been set up like a restaurant. They explained that for some reason they couldn’t figure out, they’d never thought of actually opening up their own restaurant, but were planning on doing so soon. They said that it felt related to their relationship to Dear, something about it keeping them pinned into a certain lifestyle. They were quick to explain that this wasn’t a bad thing, wasn’t unpleasant, just that they never got around to it with the life that they’d built up together even before I wound up joining the triad.</p>
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<p>We ate mostly in silence. It was a little tense at first, but then it just turned into us simply enjoying the food without letting words pass between us. It’s been a long time since I’ve enjoyed a comfortable silence like that. They crop up occasionally with Dear and Serene, but far less so than they ever did between me and █████.</p>
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<p>They bade me stay in my seat while they waved away the plates and ducked back to the kitchen to pick up two plates of tiramisu and two demitasses of espresso.</p>
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<p>Delicious as ever.</p>
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<p>Finally, they asked how we were doing. I forced myself to think for a moment before just blurting out a response. I decided to just explain our day-to-day experiences much as I did in the last letter. I talked about how we’d started exploring the sim more. We laughed about us having to learn how to cook something other than stews and college student food. They commiserated with me over just how intense two Odist foxes in the same house must be.</p>
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<p>They talked about their own process of setting up a new life, about procuring a bunch of stuff off the exchange with only the vaguest of ideas of setting up a restaurant, then slowly tweaking and tweaking and tweaking until they got closer to what they thought of as idea. “I’m still figuring out how I’m going to decorate this place. I thought about putting up my own paintings, but how tacky is that? Might as well just name that “█████’s Wish Fulfillment Bistro”, right?”</p>
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<p>They talked about their own process of setting up a new life, about procuring a bunch of stuff off the exchange with only the vaguest of ideas of setting up a restaurant, then slowly tweaking and tweaking and tweaking until they got closer to what they thought of as ideal. “I’m still figuring out how I’m going to decorate this place. I thought about putting up my own paintings, but how tacky is that? Might as well just name it “█████’s Wish Fulfillment Bistro” at that point, right?”</p>
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<p>I assured them that their paintings were plenty good enough, as was the food.</p>
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<p>Finally, though, we switched from coffee to wine and moved from the table to a lounge couch in what I imagine will be the quieter spot of the restaurant and got to talking about how we got to where we are and where to go from here.</p>
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<p>Finally, though, we switched from coffee to wine and moved from the table to a lounge couch in what I imagine will be the quieter spot of the restaurant, and got to talking about how we got to where we are and where to go from here.</p>
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<p>They nudged me to lead, I think maybe because they expected I’d have quite a lot of grievances to air about them leaving as they did. Instead, I started with what I told you, that I could certainly see where they were coming from, about how things change after fifty years, and how our happinesses change as the world we live in changes.</p>
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<p>They readily agreed, saying that, while they loved Dear and Serene on their own, their dynamic together was as frustrating as it was fun, and never fit quite into the romantic category of fun. They got pretty awkward when they described how I’ve changed and I had to urge them on several times, but they said that they’d long considered me a comforting, if passive, personality who made a good active listener, and that while I was still good at listening and still comforting to be around, me taking the step to start working at the library, shifted my passive nature to a far more active one. They said that, while they’re happy for me, it was such a change as to be jarring, that, as bad as it sounds, they liked the passive version of me more.</p>
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<p>What a strange thing to hear! I’ll admit that I had to tamp down getting upset about that. Isn’t self-actualization something we should all aim for? And when I’d talked about it initially, they were incredibly supportive of the decision.</p>
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<p>Having thought on it, though, I think I can see where they’re coming from. It wasn’t that me being passive itself was good and me being more active with my life was bad, so much as there was a set of habits that we’d all built up around me following while they led, and to have those shaken up was a prime example of those new happinesses at work. I love what I do at the library. I love the feeling of taking charge of research — I always have — and to do so in a setting that requires active participation at least, and often leadership, had shifted the way that I acted at home.</p>
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<p>They readily agreed, saying that, while they loved Dear and Serene on their own, their dynamic together was as frustrating as it was fun, and that never fit quite into the ‘romantic’ category of fun. They got pretty awkward when they described how I’ve changed and I had to urge them on several times, but they said that they’d long considered me a comforting, if passive, personality who made a good active listener, and that while I was still good at listening and still comforting to be around, me taking the step to start working at the library, shifted my passive nature to a far more active one. They said that, while they’re happy for me, it was such a change as to be jarring, that, as bad as it sounds, they liked the passive version of me more.</p>
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<p>What a strange thing to hear! I’ll admit that I had to tamp frustration at that. Isn’t self-actualization something we should all aim for? And when I’d talked about it initially, they were incredibly supportive of the decision.</p>
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<p>Having thought on it, though, I think I can see where they’re coming from. It wasn’t that me being passive itself was good and me being more active with my life was bad, so much as there was a set of habits that we’d all built up around me following while they led, and to have those shaken up was a prime example of those new happinesses at work. I love what I do at the library. I love the feeling of taking charge of research — I always have — and to do so in a setting that requires active participation and, often, leadership had shifted the way that I acted at home.</p>
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<p>I wasn’t able to put this in words at the moment, but was thankfully able to keep that frustration at bay and just tell them I’d think about it. I sent them a note earlier today with much of these thoughts to follow up on that.</p>
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<p>Anyway, we just kind of settled into silence after that, just drinking wine and relaxing, occasionally bringing up some memory or another to reminisce. Finally, we gave each other a hug and I headed back home to Dear and Serene to catch them up. I suspect that Serene had spent much of the evening keeping Dear calm so that it wouldn’t be a fretting mess by the time I got back. Probably a good idea. I can just imagine it either sulking or huffing when confronted with the conversation. As it was, we still had to put much of me recounting the evening off until today, thus me writing this letter</p>
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<p>So, overall impressions: I’m feeling much more comfortable with the way we’re each moving on. They’re building up a life that they’re getting to move forward and build for themselves, while we’ve been shocked into realizing all it is that we need to do to feel better and be more active in our own relationship rather than letting things stagnate.</p>
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<p>So, overall impressions: I’m feeling much more comfortable with the way we’re each moving on. They’re getting to move forward and build for themselves, while we’ve been shocked into realizing what it is we need to feel better and be more active in our own relationship rather than letting things stagnate.</p>
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<p>It hurt, and it still occasionally feels bad, and I don’t think it’ll ever quite stop, but I also think that, yeah, it might have actually been for the best.</p>
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<p>So I guess I have some questions that I’m left with that are probably more for May Then My Name than Ioan.</p>
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<p>I’m not sure how much ey’s talked about my current situation, but it’s come up before that this is the first time we’ve really had to deal with a loss like this as Bălans, other than perhaps leaving our brother behind when we uploaded.<sup id="fnref:compartmentalized"><a class="footnote-ref" href="#fn:compartmentalized">1</a></sup> </p>
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<li class="done2"> <a href="014.html">Codrin#Castor → Sorina, Fwd: Ioan</a>: to Sorina opening discussions</li>
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<li class="done2"> <a href="015.html">Sorina → clade</a>: apology to Codrin, short, but promises more</li>
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<li class="done2"> <a href="016.html">Codrin#Pollux → Ioan + May</a>: talking w/ partner re them moving on</li>
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<li class="done2"> <a href="017.html">Codrin#Castor → clade</a>: to Sorina on moving on, tell us about yourself (nevermind Artemis, just you)</li>
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<li class="done2"> <a href="018.html">Ioan → Codrin#Pollux and Sorina?</a>: May on immortality vs. relationships.</li>
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<li class="done2"> <a href="019.html">Sorina → clade</a>: finding her way back into being comfortably solitary, wants to hold off on A/V communication with Castor until she has things a bit more sorted with her emotions.</li>
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<li class="done3"> <a href="016.html">Codrin#Pollux → Ioan + May</a>: talking w/ partner re them moving on</li>
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<li class="done3"> <a href="017.html">Codrin#Castor → clade</a>: to Sorina on moving on, tell us about yourself (nevermind Artemis, just you)</li>
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<li class="done3"> <a href="018.html">Ioan → Codrin#Pollux and Sorina?</a>: May on immortality vs. relationships.</li>
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<li class="done3"> <a href="019.html">Sorina → clade</a>: finding her way back into being comfortably solitary, wants to hold off on A/V communication with Castor until she has things a bit more sorted with her emotions.</li>
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<li class="rejected"> <a href="020.html">Codrin#Pollux → clade</a>: moving on w/o partner, w/ Serene, attached image showing A/V working between systems, just a huge delay and limited bandwidth, Serene and Dear are collaborating</li>
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<li class="done1"> <a href="021.html">Aurel and Ioan → clade</a>: updates re: the clade fading to comfortable obscurity (doubtless TN’s stanza is still active, perhaps others strive, but just folk now), Sasha back to striped skunk now that TN’s relevance is fading, Aurel in and out of existence, passes on Sasha’s work, incl redacted version for Dear, will publish on 250th anniversary of System founding to give other Odists time to prep for the Name. Rareș died phys-side, became writer, one book dedicated ‘To Ioan’.</li>
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<li class="done3"> <a href="021.html">Aurel and Ioan → clade</a>: updates re: the clade fading to comfortable obscurity (doubtless TN’s stanza is still active, perhaps others strive, but just folk now), Sasha back to striped skunk now that TN’s relevance is fading, Aurel in and out of existence, passes on Sasha’s work, incl redacted version for Dear, will publish on 250th anniversary of System founding to give other Odists time to prep for the Name. Rareș died phys-side, became writer, one book dedicated ‘To Ioan’.</li>
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