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<p>moondogdragon: HYPOTHETICALLY&hellip; If I were to be dating someone else from group, and you and they are both there. Shall I split my time between y&rsquo;all or just one person has that day? or ignore them completely? ignore you? not really pay attention to either? or what?<br />
RannaFox: Hmm..
moondogdragon: I&rsquo;ve been thinking about it a few days so I&rsquo;ve had time to make it as complicated a question as possible<br />
RannaFox: Hee.
moondogdragon: ^_^<br />
moondogdragon: but I thought it was good for me to ask<br />
moondogdragon: basically&hellip; how should I act if my 2 mates are there at the same time?<br />
RannaFox: It&rsquo;s an odd situation.. I&rsquo;d say ignore me, but then group&rsquo;s the only way I get to see you anymore (by the way, I have next friday off, if we want to do something), I&rsquo;d say split it, but you&rsquo;d need to discuss that with the other person, and I&rsquo;d still feel bad for keeping you from them half the time. I&rsquo;m not sure how paying equal attention to both would work..
moondogdragon: neither would I<br />
moondogdragon: hmm&hellip;<br />
moondogdragon: I dont want you to feel like I&rsquo;m abandoning you though<br />
RannaFox: I&rsquo;d prefer not to feel that way either c.c
moondogdragon: exactly<br />
moondogdragon: *sigh *
moondogdragon: so complicated
RannaFox: Yeah.
moondogdragon: sorry for pulling you into this shit like this<br />
RannaFox: S&rsquo;okie. Just kinda confusing.
moondogdragon: this is why most polys only date other polys and not monogamists<br />
moondogdragon: lol<br />
RannaFox: Well, we didn&rsquo;t know when we started out. And I don&rsquo;t know, I might like poly..
moondogdragon: I should ahve told you before we started out, and I don&rsquo;t know if you&rsquo;d like it or not<br />
moondogdragon: you have to have little to no jelousy<br />
RannaFox: Jealousy is a vile emotion. I wish I were rid of it, but I can only change as fast as I live.
moondogdragon: yeah I know </p>
<p>Ranna: Hmm. Opinion. Moondog&rsquo;s polyamorous, and was asking about a hypothetical situation wherein she was dating someone else at group, and we were both there at once. I don&rsquo;t know how I&rsquo;d feel about this.
Jackal: I know how I&rsquo;d feel. LOL
Jackal: Then again, I&rsquo;m selfish, you&rsquo;re not.
Jackal: So uh&hellip;
Ranna: <em>throttles</em> Telllll meeeee.
Jackal: I dunnae. I always thought it would suck to be in love with a polyamorous person. I mean, they get to be like, &ldquo;Oh hey! I have a crush on this person! I should date them&rdquo;, meanwhile, you sit in a corner and wonder when it&rsquo;ll be your turn while probably being jealous of the other person
Jackal: I mean, it&rsquo;s relatively no stress upon the polyamorous. But for the other two, it could be horrible
Ranna: Sounds like me.
Jackal: At best, they&rsquo;ll have to constantly yearn for the subject&rsquo;s love and attention. Meanwhile, the polyamorous knows that both are basically their slaves
Jackal: Ah well. That&rsquo;s one thing that I don&rsquo;t like. But that&rsquo;s me
Ranna: I don&rsquo;t like it either, but I like Moondog.
Jackal: That one person had good advice&hellip; set conditions.
Ranna: Kris.
Jackal: Personally, I would break up with the person. I would love them, yes, but I wouldn&rsquo;t want to be &ldquo;one of their toys&rdquo;.
Ranna: Merp, forgot you were there :o) Anyway, I did, and told Moondog, but the issue of both of us going to OASOS is a hard one.
Jackal: Aye
Jackal: You&rsquo;ll give yourself selflessly to him, and get a &ldquo;dose&rdquo; in return, knowing that the other would get the same?
Jackal: Ack. Sorry&hellip; this is one of my pet peeves, apparently. LOL
Ranna: It&rsquo;s one of mine too, but I don&rsquo;t know what else to do. The thought of breaking up crossed my mind, and the thought of matching him partner for partner crossed my mind, but that still wouldn&rsquo;t be fair to the others.
Jackal: I dunno. I could only give you the advice to break up, because this kind of relationship could end up really hurting you. But that&rsquo;s my view
Jackal: But if you really think about it&hellip; aren&rsquo;t most people &ldquo;polyamorous&rdquo;?
Jackal: Supported by the main cause of divorce being &ldquo;infedelity&rdquo;&hellip;
Jackal: Dunnae
Ranna: I would be happy to live with &lsquo;cheating&rsquo;. It&rsquo;s knowing about it that sucks, and it&rsquo;s being there with it that sucks squared.
Jackal: Aye. I mean, you have crushes on others, right? But are you so uncaring of Moondog&rsquo;s love that you would bring them into the world you two have created? No, I doubt it.
Jackal: Arrrrgh.
Jackal: All I can say, if he fucks something up and gets you hurt, I&rsquo;ll be royally pissed.
Ranna: You&rsquo;re welcome to be pissed, but no hurting.
Jackal: Kei
Jackal: <em>sighs</em> I&rsquo;ll stop bitching now. hehe
Ranna: Thanks for your opinion, fuzzy.
Jackal: No problem&hellip; sorry about the tirade lol
Ranna: It&rsquo;s okay, just no hurting Moondog.
Jackal: I wouldn&rsquo;t
Jackal: I would just be pissed. No way to express it, just pissed I guess
Ranna: I can understand that, just want to make sure.
Jackal: I never want to hurt anyone in anger
Jackal: Anyhoo. Besides that, wot&rsquo;s uuup?
Ranna: Nuffin, really. Kinda hungry, but not sure what for. Kinda bored. Want company.
Jackal: ;.;
Jackal: <em>Gives food?</em>
Jackal: I would offer company, except I don&rsquo;t have a car, it&rsquo;s late, and I would look lik e a stalker
Jackal: XD XD
Jackal: Um. Mind if I post my thoughts on polyamorous relationships in a non-personal way on my LJ?
Ranna: Go ahead. I plan on telling Moondog that you and I talked, anyway.
Jackal: Ah. You can post some of my comments if you want. LOL
Jackal: Ah frick. Maybe I would hurt in anger. o.O;
Jackal: <em>Hides self in padded room</em>
Jackal: But I will keep my word!!
Jackal: Can I hurt other people, though? :O
Ranna: Like whooooo?
Jackal: Dunnae
Jackal: Just for future reference
Jackal: XD
Ranna: Hurt me, then I won&rsquo;t be hurt by Moondog anymore ^^
Jackal: Huuuhhhh?
Jackal: I wouldn&rsquo;t hurt you
Ranna: I know c.c
Jackal: lol
Jackal: Oh man. If this is too vicious, I&rsquo;m sorry
Jackal: <em>Edits a bit</em>
Jackal: Ack.
Jackal: You can see if you want. I&rsquo;m not sure how nice it is
Ranna: Meep, was scrolled up, sorry. I&rsquo;ll look.
Jackal: I&rsquo;ll edit if you want
Ranna: You sound angrified.
Jackal: I am. lol
Ranna: Heh.
Jackal: Okei. I must go.
Jackal: I&rsquo;ll see you tomorrow! ^^
Ranna: Byee&hellip;
Jackal: Good luck with the discussion ;3
Ranna: Mmhm..</p>
<p>MegaWolf pets Ranna, &ldquo;Jealous?&rdquo;
Ranna mwrrps at pets, &ldquo;Moondog&rsquo;s polyamorous and I&rsquo;m not. Wouldn&rsquo;t be so bad, but he posed the question of what would happen if he were dating another person at a group we both attend regularly.&rdquo;
Ranna&rsquo;s trying to figure out how to avoid jealousy.
Jim says, &ldquo;its not easy.. u.u&rdquo;
Ranna noticed :o)
Kyhwana peers at Ranna &ldquo;Hmm
MegaWolf growls, &ldquo;I can&rsquo;t help you there, I&rsquo;m mentally incapable of understanding jealousy.&rdquo;
You whisper, &ldquo;Ranna wants your opinion anyway. Just talked to a friend who&rsquo;s downright pissed at the situation, needs another viewpoint.&rdquo; to MegaWolf.
MegaWolf whispers, &ldquo;MegaWolf nodnods, ears perked.&rdquo; to you.
Kyhwana purrrs, &ldquo;Try getting to know the other person as well?&rdquo;
You yerf, &ldquo;I&rsquo;m not sure I could handle that, considering who I think Moondog has in mind.&rdquo;
You whisper, &ldquo;Mrf. The other person&rsquo;s argument is &ldquo;Jackal: You&rsquo;ll give yourself selflessly to him, and get a &ldquo;dose&rdquo; in return, knowing that the other would get the same?&rdquo; I kinda agree with this, but I don&rsquo;t want to just drop a friggin&rsquo; relationship..&rdquo; to MegaWolf.
Kyhwana hmms at Ranna &ldquo;Then you&rsquo;re going to be jealous anyway? Wouldn&rsquo;t it be better to know the other person he&rsquo;s dating, and hopefully have something in common with them too?
Tsuki purrs quietly, &ldquo;you are suppose to have multiple physical/emotional relationships without the jealous, guilt and anger&rdquo;
MegaWolf whispers, &ldquo;I think you need to talk to him about the whole polygamy thing. I don&rsquo;t agree with it personally, but in this day and age it&rsquo;s not something I can completely disagree with anymore. He could be testing you like my ex did, one of the multiple reasons he left me because I /didn&rsquo;t/ get jealous when he started seeing another guy at the same time.&rdquo; to you.
You yerf, &ldquo;I agree, Kyh, I&rsquo;m just not sure I work that way.&rdquo;
Kyhwana purrrs, &ldquo;Then maybe you should stop dating Moondog?&rdquo;
Ranna stops trying to type a few things at once.
You yerf, &ldquo;That&rsquo;s an option, Kyh.&rdquo;
You whisper, &ldquo;The relationship hasn&rsquo;t been going on that long, so I&rsquo;m not sure, but I don&rsquo;t think that&rsquo;d be something Moondog&rsquo;d do. He might whine, but I don&rsquo;t think he&rsquo;d really &lsquo;test&rsquo;.&rdquo; to MegaWolf.
MegaWolf whispers, &ldquo;Then if you&rsquo;re looking for something serious more than just someone to hang out with and spend time with, it sounds like he&rsquo;s not the one for you.&rdquo; to you.
You whisper, &ldquo;Ranna nods, that&rsquo;s what everyone&rsquo;s said so far..&rdquo; to MegaWolf.
Ranna will think about it.
MegaWolf whispers, &ldquo;Sorry foxy. Monogamous/polygamous doesn&rsquo;t usually make a good match.&rdquo; to you.
You whisper, &ldquo;Ranna nods, &ldquo;Even Moondog admits that..&rdquo;&rdquo; to MegaWolf</p>
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