<p>moondogdragon: HYPOTHETICALLY… If I were to be dating someone else from group, and you and they are both there. Shall I split my time between y’all or just one person has that day? or ignore them completely? ignore you? not really pay attention to either? or what?<br/>
moondogdragon: basically… how should I act if my 2 mates are there at the same time?<br/>
RannaFox: It’s an odd situation.. I’d say ignore me, but then group’s the only way I get to see you anymore (by the way, I have next friday off, if we want to do something), I’d say split it, but you’d need to discuss that with the other person, and I’d still feel bad for keeping you from them half the time. I’m not sure how paying equal attention to both would work..
<p>Ranna: Hmm. Opinion. Moondog’s polyamorous, and was asking about a hypothetical situation wherein she was dating someone else at group, and we were both there at once. I don’t know how I’d feel about this.
Jackal: I know how I’d feel. LOL
Jackal: Then again, I’m selfish, you’re not.
Jackal: I dunnae. I always thought it would suck to be in love with a polyamorous person. I mean, they get to be like, “Oh hey! I have a crush on this person! I should date them”, meanwhile, you sit in a corner and wonder when it’ll be your turn while probably being jealous of the other person
Jackal: I mean, it’s relatively no stress upon the polyamorous. But for the other two, it could be horrible
Jackal: At best, they’ll have to constantly yearn for the subject’s love and attention. Meanwhile, the polyamorous knows that both are basically their slaves
Jackal: Ah well. That’s one thing that I don’t like. But that’s me
Ranna: I don’t like it either, but I like Moondog.
Jackal: That one person had good advice… set conditions.
Jackal: You’ll give yourself selflessly to him, and get a “dose” in return, knowing that the other would get the same?
Jackal: Ack. Sorry… this is one of my pet peeves, apparently. LOL
Ranna: It’s one of mine too, but I don’t know what else to do. The thought of breaking up crossed my mind, and the thought of matching him partner for partner crossed my mind, but that still wouldn’t be fair to the others.
Jackal: I dunno. I could only give you the advice to break up, because this kind of relationship could end up really hurting you. But that’s my view
Jackal: But if you really think about it… aren’t most people “polyamorous”?
Jackal: Supported by the main cause of divorce being “infedelity”…
Ranna: I would be happy to live with ‘cheating’. It’s knowing about it that sucks, and it’s being there with it that sucks squared.
Jackal: Aye. I mean, you have crushes on others, right? But are you so uncaring of Moondog’s love that you would bring them into the world you two have created? No, I doubt it.
Ranna mwrrps at pets, “Moondog’s polyamorous and I’m not. Wouldn’t be so bad, but he posed the question of what would happen if he were dating another person at a group we both attend regularly.”
Ranna’s trying to figure out how to avoid jealousy.
MegaWolf growls, “I can’t help you there, I’m mentally incapable of understanding jealousy.”
You whisper, “Ranna wants your opinion anyway. Just talked to a friend who’s downright pissed at the situation, needs another viewpoint.” to MegaWolf.
MegaWolf whispers, “MegaWolf nodnods, ears perked.” to you.
Kyhwana purrrs, “Try getting to know the other person as well?”
You yerf, “I’m not sure I could handle that, considering who I think Moondog has in mind.”
You whisper, “Mrf. The other person’s argument is “Jackal: You’ll give yourself selflessly to him, and get a “dose” in return, knowing that the other would get the same?” I kinda agree with this, but I don’t want to just drop a friggin’ relationship..” to MegaWolf.
Kyhwana hmms at Ranna “Then you’re going to be jealous anyway? Wouldn’t it be better to know the other person he’s dating, and hopefully have something in common with them too?
Tsuki purrs quietly, “you are suppose to have multiple physical/emotional relationships without the jealous, guilt and anger”
MegaWolf whispers, “I think you need to talk to him about the whole polygamy thing. I don’t agree with it personally, but in this day and age it’s not something I can completely disagree with anymore. He could be testing you like my ex did, one of the multiple reasons he left me because I /didn’t/ get jealous when he started seeing another guy at the same time.” to you.
You yerf, “I agree, Kyh, I’m just not sure I work that way.”
Kyhwana purrrs, “Then maybe you should stop dating Moondog?”
You yerf, “That’s an option, Kyh.”
You whisper, “The relationship hasn’t been going on that long, so I’m not sure, but I don’t think that’d be something Moondog’d do. He might whine, but I don’t think he’d really ‘test’.” to MegaWolf.
MegaWolf whispers, “Then if you’re looking for something serious more than just someone to hang out with and spend time with, it sounds like he’s not the one for you.” to you.
You whisper, “Ranna nods, that’s what everyone’s said so far..” to MegaWolf.
